harnessing mutual understanding and respect through listening thoughtfully

Mutual understanding and mutual respect grows out of listening thoughtfully. We need to master the skill of holding our judgment until we fully understand what others are saying. We need not agree with other people’s ideas but we must strive to treat them and their ideas with respect. We need to learn how to listen without condemnation; listen long enough to truly understand their ideas, and how strongly they feel about it before sharing our own perspective on the matter. If all people can master this, imagine how much better this world would be. But we live in an imperfect world where not everything is ideal. Nevertheless, it wouldn’t hurt us much if we try to thoughtfully listen to people whom we interact.

Aklan Photoblog #1

Another opportunity to explore the Philippines; this time, it's the Province of Aklan -- home to the Ati-atihan Festival and the famous Boracay Island. I was both challenged and excited when I learned that our project there will push through. Being the usual me who try to see something that can be a source of fun even when faced with the most daunting task, I just tried to think of the brighter side of it -- the fulfillment when we get positive results from the project + a chance to explore yet another province of the Philippines.

The initial trip was for our baseline study on the Province's systems in place to address violence against women (VAW) cases. The study is a preparatory work for the province-wide roll-out of the VAW Documentation System which the Philippine Commission on Women is putting in place. It is a rather ambitious endeavor, but we wouldn't see any grand dream come to reality if no one dared to make it come true, right? So, there we go...how do we make it happen in the entire Province of Aklan? First things first, know the place and what it has to offer thus, the baseline study. We decided to use the Performance Standards and Assessment Tools for Services Addressing Violence against Women in the Philippines in conducting the research, so that's my part. Our other agenda was to checkout available training venues in the Province in preparation for the series of training that we will conduct in the following months. Our original itinerary:

June 6, 2012 | AM flight to Kalibo then checkout nearby training venues with people from the Provincial Government

June 7, 2012 | whole day orientation for the service providers regarding the project and the baseline study

June 8, 2012 | continuation of training venue scouting, PM flight back to Manila 

 *Oh, we initially planned to have our return flight booked on a later date so that we can go to Boracay (our own expense of course!) but the plan didn't materialize because I have to fly back to Manila after the orientation on June 7 in order to be present in the writeshop that the office scheduled June 8 to prepare concept notes for another major project proposal. 

So here, here is a glimpse of my first trip to Aklan...

*Photo credit: Kuya Darwin Tejerero's Nikkon D300. My bad, I left my Sony point and shoot in the van that we used in Kalibo! :(

Registration and Kit Distribution Lineup. The brown envelope and pencil kit reminds me of grade school days!

That's a police officer signing the registration sheet. One grand salute to PNP-Aklan Women and Children Protection Desk Officers -- they are the early birds and they come in full force!

Opening Program | An officer from the Provincial Social Welfare and Development Office speaks before the audience.

Opening Program | Mr. Franklin Quimpo represented and conveyed the Governor's message. Incidentally, Sir Frank is also an active member of MOVE (men opposed to violence against women everywhere) a group of male advocates who commit to be actively involved in the elimination of VAW. 

Robert Matthew Romero, PCW-ICT Unit

Head introduces the project to the audience

Robert also gave an overview of the

VAW Documentation System

Robert's illustration on the VAWDocS

Honey M. Castro of PCW Policy Development and Advocacy Division (Yep, that's me!) discussing the baseline study that PCW is conducting as a preparatory work for the roll-out of VAWDocS in the entire Province of Aklan.

...This is the moment when all I've done; when all the dreaming scheming and screaming become one. This is the day see it sparkle and shine when all I've lived for becomes mine.. Nah, I didn't sing! I just told them that we are going to use the Performance Standards and Assessment Tool for the baseline study and guided them to how to answer the tool.

Okey class, get your books and turn to page 54, where you will find the assessment questionnaires.   :) Feeling teacher lang! But see, I've got attentive audience :) 

Kuya Darwin got to talk too! Impromptu talk to discuss the ICT survey that he prepared.

Oh no, may quiz? Nah, that's not a quiz

but we gave them homework. :)

Discussion of next steps | Robert 

facilitated the discussion, while I 

take notes of the agreements for 

everyone to see on the screen.

Photo ops | Saludo ako sa Aklan-PNP Women and Children Protection Desk Officers!

Keep up the good work mga Ateng Pulis, ipakita niyo ang tunay na kahulugan ng public service!

POST-ORIENTATION

Official Visit | The Provincial Prosecutor was unable to attend the orientation due to an urgent concern. Fortunately, Ms. Grace Quimpo of the Provincial Environment and Natural Resources Office who is a dedicated member of the Gender and Development Team of Aklan, thought of trying to visit the Prosecutor's Office after our activity. So, we went to this office located inside the Provincial Capitol Compound.

That's me discussing the VAWDocS Project and the baseline study that we are conducting using the VAW Performance Standards with Atty. Lourdes Q. Mayor, Provincial Prosecutor of Aklan. She said that it was her first time to hear about and see the tool, and thanked us for giving her a copy of it so she can study and see what she can do so that they will be able to follow and meet the standards. 

QUICK TOUR
Since we accomplished everything rather early for my 7:15 PM flight, our partners from the Provincial Government was kind enough to bring me and the guys to the nearest tourist destination in Kalibo -- New Washington Aklan's Sampaguita Gardens, home to Precious Moments cutie stuff!

Welcome billboard at the entrance. 

A seemingly endless number of this angel statue are lined up on both sides of the entrance road.

The person behind Sampaguita Gardens: Samuel John Butcher, an American artist and creator of Precious Moments artworks that promote messages of loving, caring and sharing. 

The Chapel's walls are painted with these...

Can you find me? 

That's me at the souvenir shop :)

With Kuya Darwin @ the souvenir shop where he bought a super cute doll for the dear daughter. Sweet!

Just one of the many good spots for photo ops. Since we have to rush back to Kalibo for my flight, we were not able to take much photos. For sure, I will go back to this place and have enough time to appreciate its beauty, and capture great photos of a happy me!

With our accommodating hosts from the Provincial Government of Aklan. 

Maraming salamat! Promise, I will be back to get to experience more of Aklan.

A new year's gift from Ate Nova, this book

saved me from eternal boredom while waiting

for my boarding time. I find it an interesting 
and thought-provoking read, so I got hooked 
and continued reading it on board until my 
plane landed in Manila.

JOURNEY BACK TO HOME
We rushed back to Ati-atihan Hostel in Kalibo to get my things. Since it was already around 5:30 and I have to be in the airport at 6PM, I told them that I will just skip our scheduled dinner and they can just drop me off at the airport.

It was still early when I checked-in. I traveled back to Manila alone since the guys will have to continue scouting for training venues the next day. The airport was rather small and jam-packed -- there were notices of delayed flights, complaining passengers, food distribution for stranded ones, pinoys and foreigners mostly travelling with family or friends, food and coffee stalls, massage therapy stalls etc. I sat there alone with my sling bag containing my wallet, mobile phone, i-pod and a book which I just grabbed from my shelf and stuck in my backpack the morning I left. I opted not to use the i-pod so that I will be able to hear the announcements, so I just sat there and read the book.

Luckily, my PAL flight was just right on time (oh boy, when I traveled to Gen. Santos last March via Cebu Pacific, my flight from and to Manila was so delayed!), although it was kind of turbulent most of the time. Good thing it was just an hour flight, and I don't really freak out with that. I took a yellow metered cab from Terminal 2 (it rained in Manila and on times like that, it is best to take NAIA taxi because they have to choice but to bring you to your destination no matter where it is in the Metropolis. Yep, they are more expensive than regular cabs but you cannot guarantee that the regular cabs will take you when your destination is just so far -- yep they are prohibited from choosing passengers/destination, but they do that anyway.) For some unfortunate reason, my cab's left headlight died down somewhere in Pasay (it was still near the airport). Manong driver was apologetic and asked me is it was alright if he transfer me to a regular cab. I was quite frustrated but what can I do? Good thing, the first white cab which he buzzed for me agreed to take me to Commonwealth Avenue-Don Antonio without hesitation. I actually had fun talking with the driver as we go through the snail-paced traffic of metro cities going to my place. I was finally home before midnight. I just put down my bags, rest for a while then prepared to call it a night, since I have to catch the 7:30 AM van at Philcoa which will bring us to the venue of our writeshop in Ortigas.

PNoy at iba pa...usapang naiinip lang, walang pikunan!

Originally posted via FB Notes on Sunday, July 4, 2010 at 9:27pm

Kulit lang ng photo na ito na kuha
sa conference room namin. May
konek naman sa topic ng post na ito.

Isang umaga, habang binabagtas ng bus ang kalye mula Elliptical Road hanggang Quiapo, naaliw ako sa pag-iisip tungkol sa pagka-humorous at malikhain ng mga Pinoy. Hindi ko alam kung sino ang nagpa-uso na tawaging P.Noy si P.Noy, pero mahusay ang kanyang ideya para mapalapit sa damdamin ng mga Pinoy ang imahe ni P.Noy. Pero dahil sa pausong iyan, naisip ko tuloy na may mga sikat na taong hindi dapat naisin na maging presidente ng Pinas kasi magiging kakatwa ang bansag sa kanila, kung susundin ang naumpisahan kay P.Noy.

Parang katulad lang ito ng joke ko noon sa bestfriend ng ate ko na si Ate Malou. High school pa lang ako noon, at tuwing mapapadalaw si Ate Malou sa bahay ay sinasabihan ko siyang iwasan mag-asawa ng may apelyidong Chinese-sounding tulad ng Wang, Kong, Pit, Tong at Toh. Isipin mo na lang kako kung ano ang magiging tawag sa iyo kapag pinagdugtong ang nickname mo at ang mga apelyidong nabanggit ko!

Sa ganitong konteksto ko rin naumpisahan ang listahan ko ng mga taong magkakaroon ng kakatwang bansag kapag naging P. ng Pinas:

Ang aktres na si Iza Calzado dahil tatawagin siyang P.Iza (pizza)

Si dating Senador Kit Tatad dahil tatawagin siyang P.Kit

Si Irma Daldal (kilala ito ng mga Batang Batibot) dahil tatawagin siyang P.irma

Ang singer na si Kuh Ledesma dahil tatawagin siyang P.Kuh

Ang aktres na si Coney Reyes dahil tatawagin siyang P.Con (pikon)

Si Cong. Sonny Belmonte dahil tatawagin siyang P.Son

Ating Alamin host Gerry Geronimo dahil tatawagin siyang P.Gerry (piggery – sa isang banda, pwedeng maging flagship program ng administrasyon niya ang pagpapa-unlad ng industriya ng paghahayupan)

Ang pop princess na si Sarah Geronimo dahil tatawagin siyang P.Sara (pero baka sa ilalim ng administrasyon niya ay mapagtuunan ng pansin ang sektor ng edukasyon)

Yun pa lang ang naisip ko pero for sure, marami pang iba.

Bigla ko rin naisip na mabuti na lang DILG ang naisip hawakan pansamantala raw bilang Kalihim ni P.Noy, at hindi DOT. Ang pangit lang kasi pakinggan kung tatawagin siyang P. n DOT Secretary Benigno Aquino III. Hay, eto ang nagaganap kapag trapik..kung anu-ano naiisip ko.

• Abigail:  Kung si Nat manalo, ang presidential nickname niya nice din. Hahahaha!
  

  July 4, 2010 at 10:13pm ·
• Evelyn:  
  

  i

  ba ka talaga nihan! dati ang tawag sa kanya PEnoy - kasi daw president elect pa lang siya. when he assumed office na P.noy na, mas preferred nya ito dahil mas makamasa ang dating, pag formal naman at kelangan daw PBSA (Benigno Simeon Aquino - Benigno S. Aquino) yan ang initials ni ninoy dahil naisakatuparan nya ang nabigong pangarap ng kanyang ama na maging pangulo... yan naman ang nasagap ko sa araw-araw kong pakikinig ng radyo.:)
  

  July 4, 2010 at 10:38pm ·
• Louie: Kung si Gibo pala nanalo...magiging P.Gi hehehehe
  

  July 5, 2010 at 11:50am · 
• Aileen: ako P.Nats : )
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:27pm · 
• 
  

  Honey: ‎@ Abi: haha..sir Nat will then be called P.Nat --- at least peborit cartoon mo yun right, Lucy? hehe
  
  @ Lyn: oo nga, siya ay forme Pe.Noy..hehe..cool!
  
  @ Louie: P.Gi nga siya.. kapag surname naman eh P.Teo (petso). panalo!
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:27pm · 
• 
  

  Honey: ‎@ Nats, oo nga...swak na swak sa peborit cartoons ni abi, Peanuts! hehe
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:28pm · 
• Editha: nakakatuwa naman ito....okay n okay
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:38pm · 
• 
  

  Honey: ‎@ tita edith: kapag ikaw naging pangulo, tawag sa iyo eh P.Sa (Saus)
  
  si sylvia naman ay tatawaging P.Syl (pisil)
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:46pm · 
• Wanet: P.Net?
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:53pm · 
• 
  

  Honey: ‎@ wanet: mas bagay ang P.Lac (pilak=silver) ahihi..
  

  July 5, 2010 at 12:54pm · 
• Wanet: Honga! sige silver na lang. :-)
  

  July 5, 2010 at 1:03pm ·
• Sylvia: dahil sa isinama mo na naman ako, ikaw ay P.Honey (phoney ang pag-pronounce)..nye! di ba macapagal middle name mo? cheers to P.Honey Macapagal Castro (naku, double take!)
  

  July 8, 2010 at 1:07pm · 
• Meyps: Wahahahahahaaha!!! Adik ka, adik! Hahahaha... P.Honey! Naku, hindi magandang pangitain! Pangit rin akin, kontra vaw - P.Asa.... Pero buti naman dinocument mo thoughts mo. May mapag-uumpisahan na tayo! For that, hooray for traffic!
  

  July 8, 2010 at 10:56pm · 
• Honey: update: kapag si Sec. Ging Deles ay naging Pangulo, tatawagin siyang P.Ging (parang tsibugan lang eh noh!)
  

  July 21, 2010 at 1:18pm ·

moment of solitude

That's me, photographed by my friend Michelle Domingo,
who was surprised to see me already up and about so early
in the morning during a trip to Real, Quezon.

I love this photo. 

How I wish that every moment could be so serene, so simple, and so full of hope as I watch to the sun shine its rays through the clouds. 

How I wish that the sea could always be like this -- alive but calm as marvel at the fact that it doesn't get tired. 

How I wish that I could have its strength, its will -- to keep sending waves after waves unto the shores, to keep holding up to big and small things that come to it, to keep on giving and sharing a part of its treasures for others.